EM,
Are you sure it's a refusal or is that your interpretation? You don't need to act as if things are OK, but they're not in that area. You do need to act and say things that will move the R in a positive direction, and do no harm.

What is your opinion as to why there is no physical intimacy in the R at this time?

CL

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching