Adventures of Supermom...JennyF's 2nd thread

[phbear316]

Jenny

All i have to offer you is (((hugs))), i too am suffering the H going to family. My h as you know left tues to be with this family for chiristmas. What really gets me about this is family moved to florida the same year we got married, 13 years. I have asked occasionally if h would like to go to fla sometime around the holidays, and always the answer was no. So i feel it is a slap in the face for me for him go this year. I know all the other reasons he needs to go, but it still hurts.

I am sad, I realized last night that even thought i have been keeping myself really busy, last minute shopping etc, I truly felt last night alone. And i did not like it. H did call conversations are different, we have been talking for at least 40 minutes to and hour on the phone each night. Yes he call me during the day also. But I felt truly alone last night and did not like it one bit. All i have is my cat, who last night wanted no part of the crazy crying lady in the house. You know just as a side not, i swear the cat missed him too. When i am on the phone with H, cat is in my lap and trys to paw the phone, I put the phone down to cat and she meows at it. Crazy kitty! LOL

All i can say is enjoy sat with your son. Make it a special day with him, even though he is young, go out, meet your girlfriend, Hey maybe even invite them to your home for at a last minute get together, have them bring something to eat or order pizza or chinese food, chat and have fun. Just thinking out loud. I don't know I have a funny feeling, how much do you want to bet, h calls you, to come over there because of your daughter or something like that. All i can say, is like i feel the same way with my h, hopefully he will be uncomfortable in telling people who ask were i am, and what his answer will be.

I feel the same way about the instant removal of you from his family. I guess I have to look at it this way also, h has no contact with my mom and dad. They are hurt and angry with h, so right now would not be a good idea for h to be near them.

I have also had to come to reality and grips with my h will always be a BIL to my SIL, and so on. No matter how much they tell me they disagree with what h is doing, they will not stop loving him and i cannot ask them to do that. I can only hope that he sees love on chirstmas between all who will be there, and makes something fall back into place with my H, and starts to bring him home to me.

I could tell you to be strong, but you are so strong, i don't need to remind you of that.

Hugs to you,
phbear