GGG- What it means to me.

[MJontheMend]

Some more thoughts on the whole sub/dom thing on LFL's thread. Studies have shown that women generally are more attracted to men with hard, masculine features when they are ovulating and thus most sexually receptive. During non-fertile phases of the cycle women are more attracted to men who look more stereotypically feminine or "pretty". Other studies show that women who have overall higher sex drives tend towards being more attracted to men with masculine features generally. So this is why most women tend towards being more naturally submissive sexually.

OTOH, studies also show that women with higher sex drives are more likely to be somewhat bi-sexual. I found that what allowed me to be aroused during my one bi-sexual encounter was the same thing that allows me to be aroused when playing a straight-forwardly dominant (lioness on monkey as opposed to lioness on lion)role in relation to a man. It was what someone suggested to LFL on her thread. I do what I would like to have done to me. Therefore, I regard the part of my sexuality that is bi-sexual as being rather narcissistic. I don't think of myself as bi-sexual because I have never fallen "in love" with a woman and I really don't think that I ever could.

So, I think the point that I am trying to make is that, IMO, a high sex drive just makes somebody more likely to vibe "assertive" rather than "dominant" or "submissive" and a low sex drive vibes more "passive". Anybody, male or female,, who is willing or able to vibe assertively dominant will likely cause their partner to become a horny monkey. I know that I have some issues with vibing assertively dominant for the simple reason that I get annoyed with the fact that men frequently think that I am vibing dominant just because a lot of my physical features are in alignment with that. For instance, I couldn't go out in public by myself dressed the way I usually dressed when I went out with GP because my personality doesn't go with my appearance unless I am in a certain rare kind of mood. However, I'm wondering what the deal with this is because I have zero issues with vibing lioness when I'm actually having sex with a lion.