Aud, It is a hard balancing act, isn't it? You want to give your H the space to be himself, yet you want to be treated the way that you want to be treated.
As for not saying things the moment they come into your head, this is very important. I work on this daily. I often leave the room and think things through before I decide if I'll say something. And MANY times I do decide not to say what was on my mind, becuase I was able to work through it on my own. I have even said this to my H... that sometimes I need to think things through on my own before I just blurt things out.
What you said about worry vs. faith.... I LOVE that. I have never thought of it that way, but it is so true. I am so glad I read that. I am a BIG worrier. And I am working on building my faith. And when you let go and let God, then the worry goes as well.
YOur H isn't into C. Well, neither are a lot of men out there. And you will have to respect his feelings on that, becuase if he's not open to it, it won't work on him. My H was like this at one time, but he is in C now and has been for a year and a half. In my H's case, he was so messed up in his own head that he finally decided he needed help. He was quite lost.
You are doing well. And I think you have a good perspective on things.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
