H said our M is "platonic"

[MJontheMend]

Sorry to keep babbling on your thread but I also wanted to note that if acting out a man's submissive fantasies was the secret to fixing a SSM then mine would have been just fine. What I found was that of course you can somewhat up the frequency of sex by being dominant because everybody has a part of their drive that is submissive. If I go back to the statistic that says most men prefer that a woman initiate sex 1/3 of the time, I believe this statistic is based on the extent to which most men like and/or tolerate being in a more submissive role. I mean kind of the opposite of the guy who has constant submissive fantasies is the guy who freaks out if you pinch his b*tt because maybe he's not a man if he likes that kind of thing or the guy who is so controlled that he doesn't like to orgasm when given head. Of course, your sich is different than mine. Sometimes the sex is the problem in a sexual relationship.

Another thing I should note is that physical attractiveness is more strongly aligned with the submissive role. I grossed you guys out by saying I could have sex with Dick Cheney but that was only because I was imagining him as thoroughly dominant. The thought of being in the presence of Dick Cheney acting like a sexual monkey is a huge turn-off. Jimmy Smits, on the other hand "Where'd I put my rope?"