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[Lanzo]

Hi Fb2,

The good news for you is that I'm gonna ride out this rollercoaster with you. The even better news is that I think you're doing ok and you're gonna get the hang of all this DB stuff. At the end of it all you'll be fine.

Validating: You're doing ok, just don't go overboard or you'll come across as needy. It's still ok to voice your own opinions.

W Anger: This is gonna be constant, she'll pound and she'll hammer you for any little misdemeanour. Stay constant, stay focused and don't react. Its tough but believe me it works.

She keeps blaming the school, the teachers, me, etc.

A good response could be "I know the teachers etc are failing, but what can we do to help the children". Then try and work on an action plan together with her, even let her think it's her idea.

Apart from the emotional rollercoaster the legal/financial side is very scary. She's getting easy money and is enjoying her "freedom" but I'm feeling the pain.

I was in the same position so I went to the bank who were able to help me. If we D I'll get money to pay it back, If we reconcile I'll have some explaining to do.

Keep going buddy we're right with you.