Flipping the tortilla

what is the number one thing, most important thing I can do right now as I wait to be served?

Go rent a movie, go out to dinner with friends, or go run or workout.

Basically, anything that has nothing to do with your W.

I'm hoping db'ers are in that 20%.

I'll say it again - Who cares? Statistics are useless in this situation.

can I email om with a blank email to let him know I'm paying attention? he's married too......or would that cause chaos. I am captain chaos right now.

This kind of stuff isn't going to get you close to that 20%. You realize how quickly something like that would get back to your W?

If OM is married, then he probably has a whole hell storm going on in his life. Give it some time and see what happens between him and W - It'll most likely blow up in their face before too long.

[Tostada]

thanks for all the replies.

I'm doing my best to stay busy.

I know nothing will change until ea is over w om...just don't know how to encourage that result.

[bhopeful]

You can encourage that result by being the very best man that you can be. Make her wonder why she would want to leave you.

[Tostada]

I think the simple answer that I can figure out from listening to her and the development of some sort of ea, is because she didn't feel loved enough from me...but now that I show it, she rejects it...can't win.

[Tostada]

w and kids are on day 3 of 5 day ski trip. both my kids called me a couple times yesterday....wondering if it would be ok to call W or if I should call and ask for kids? wish I was there.

[bhopeful]

I would just call and ask for the kids. If she talks to you then great, but don't expect anything and don't push anything. If she wanted to talk to you then she would call you...

[Tostada]

Just got this emailed from my W on the slopes...

"Have you thought about this as well (re: parenting plan)? I propose I have the kids Sun-Tues, you have them wed-Thurs and we alternate weekends....so some weeks you have then 4 days in a row. Will this work for you?

Let me know what you think...I know you think I am confused but I am not...I am very clear on this...I think we will be better off..both of us."

I am not going to comment to her on the parenting plan, but considering a long email regarding her confusion.....Id like to put a few thoughts into her head.

I am not going to comment to her on the parenting plan, but considering a long email regarding her confusion.....Id like to put a few thoughts into her head.

What do you think a long e-mail is going to get you? I'm going to guess it's going to be nothing positive.

Why not just respond to her about the parenting plan and avoid disappointing yourself with discussions of other things.

[Tostada]

I replied that we could discuss over dinner...she said sure.

I have written a very long email....I wanted to bring up some points. She says she in not confused and her thoughts are very clear. I wouldnt mind telling her why I think she is confused. I'm sure my email doesnt quite fit the DB'ing, but where am I now? this whole thing is spiraling down hill....