CL, It sounds like you are giving your W some exceptional emotional support. I am also someone who gets easily overwhelmed, so takling it through is very helpful.
You are your W's rock right now. You are helping through her inssecurities and struggles. And the job change may be just the thing to jump start her emotions.
You are doing great!
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track