...Had to run out. To finish my above post, I will say this: There is something to be said about going NC as I learned yesterday. W is an alien right now with the resentment and all the trimmings. I broke the golden rule about engaging in an argument and I dropped the gloves and let my emotions get to me. No call for her to hit below the belt like she did, but I was wrong too. Trust me: It was a toe to toe 15 round slugfest trading one blow after another. It was nasty. Back to Step 1 and right now I don't care what happens. Anyway read the post by Preserve. It is an EXCELLENT, intelligent source of advice....something I should have read a few times. Anyway, I think W and I have emptied our bags of insults and she is probably also mentally exhausted as I am. I think the fires will burn out after some time and then we will see what happens. I know one thing: For my sit, Going Dark is the method to use here. I'm staying below the radar and working on myself and put the remains of the marriage on autopilot. If it smacks into a mountain, oh well. If it somehow lands safely, ok. JMW128: DO NOT fall into the same trap as I did on Christmas Eve. I cannot stress this enough. If she starts on you, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT as Preserve mentions in his post and I suggest you read it. Its tough for everybody here right now especially with Christmas looming so we just have to keep our wits about us, support each other, and just ride the storm out.
