Weve been together just under 2 years. To answer an earlier question, she has me so confused I dont know what to do sexually anymore. I usually do oral on her first to get her started, but she rarely even lets me do that. Ill give you a scenario - Were laying on the couch watching TV. I decide that maybe tonight would be a good night to try and get soemthign going. So as were curled up I softly kiss her neck and run my fingers through her hair - I get no response. After 15 - 20 minutes I give up. Another scenario - We'll be on the couch and i will just reach over and grab her breasts, thinking maybe she wants me to be more aggressive - She gets mad, says she feels groped and we end up mad at aech other all night. Another scenario - we'll be on the couch or in bed. I will kiss her along her arms, down her stomach and eventually I will work my way down to her vaj. I will then try to touch it or do oral and she will lock her knees together. When we talk about what went wrong at a later time and she tells me if I would just be more kissy she could get in the mood. So next time I try, im more kissy. FAIL. Then we talk about it and she tells me if I would just give her a massage it would relax her and she'd be more open to it. So next time I give her a massage and poof - nothing. We talk about it later and she tells me if I would just do ____ shed be in the mood and we could do it.. But I do ___ and nothing. Or I didnt do it right or say it like i meant it or whatever. The last time we had sex, I put fake rosepetals all over the bdroom, lit insence, candlles, etc. Gave her a massage for about 30 minutes. Did oral on her to get her almost across the finish line and we finally did it. Im more than a little resentful that I have to go through all these hoops just to get what should be a fun, playful, exciting, natural thing newlyweds do. Im espcially resentful that I didnt get the favor returned on my B-day. I know i need to let hat stuff go and not be so concerned about 'tit for tat', and for the most part im not, but I just think it shouldnt be this hard.
