CVA - Have I Done Everything...No!

[Not Much Left]

Think I wrote that before I was able to "see the other side", that being...at least I know, for sure (which I did not before, no matter how much friends and acquaintences tell you), that there is more out there...

Personally I think there were 2 things needed for me to detach, one was at least getting some affection from someone else, I have been deprived for so long and the second, which I have not done yet because I have been distracted at work, with the kids on the holidays, stressed, meeting WC, etc, getting my own place.


I have made a decision on pt #2 so hope to have that done in next few weeks. Everyone needs different things to happen to them from what I have seen to get them to where I think I am. Some are able to do it from day 1, others 3 mos, 6 mos, no events, big traumatic knock down drag out talks, others I suspect like me, need the same distance our respective Spouse' have asked for but it just took me a while.

If W comes back from her family after the holiday and says OK, willing to give it a try. My first reaction will be questions, not "giddy up" let's go! I seriously doubt it will happen. I have been here before and the only thing that brought us back together then were my efforts, not hers. Do I need to be hit on the head with a hammer or what? More likely it will be OK, how do we move this forward...Fine will be the answer.

C