But she says that was just because it was a new relationship and im still stuck in the early stage of the relationship when things were easy. Now weve moved on to the later stage when were comfortable with each other and were just not going to be the people we used to be.
Yep. I've heard MsHdog say that very thing. And, by the way, it is true to some extent. Read The Sex Starved Marriage. It's all about the testosterone, baby.
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BUT, ive had a problem with um... finishing too soon and shes been disappointed.
Oh, yeah. BTDT. Of course, MsHdog held her disappointment in until she got sick of always taking the blame for our poor sex life. The way she "shared" her disappointment was harsh, but effective.
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Ive tried to talk to her about it, told her that a lot of it is because we dont do it often.
Yeah...that "don't do it often"? I understand that you are just reportin' the facts, but here's a clue: you say "don't do it often" and she hears "it's all your fault." Not an aphrodisiac, my young padawan.
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Ive bought educational videos to try and make it last longer but every time I bring it up she gets mad.
I'm not familiar with the educational videos, but unless they are all about things that YOU can do and not about what SHE can do, she's going to hear "and here's a video documenting why it's all your fault." Anaphrodisiac.
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Ive offered to do more for her to get her across the finish line but she wont even give me the chance to prove it.
Yeah, I tried that once back in, lemmee see, that would have been '05, but got "I don't need YOUR help in that area. I can take care of myself." (Yet another reason I've been on vacation with her to a certain island off the coast of Georgia TWICE, and have NEVER had sex there). Oh...and thinking of it as a "finish line"...well, I'll let the ladies here clue you in on that way of thinking.
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orally
Sigh. The last time I ... oh never mind. It's just farkin' depressing me.
Go back and read my email to you. Especially the part about how sad it is that you want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you.
You are me. Eight years ago. After marriage, but before DD6. I am telling you: Go.
