well, all hell broke loose, it is over and done

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Cat,
I'm so sorry for you. I'm sorry for him too, but not much.

So much to say, so much to think about. You seem to be doing well. When I read your first post, I wished I could call you right away, even though it was a day late.

You're kids will be OK. You'll protect them.

What runningoutoftime's post suggests to me is the idea of co-dependancy. I don't think you're like that, but it's something to be aware of.

Question: He's sorry, he doesn't want to lose you. Does he love you yet? Have those feelings returned?

I'd advise not closing the door completely. D takes time anyway. But if you can manage separation, I think it would be good for both of you.

another question, How do you feel about him? Any love left?

You can't fix or save him. You've gone above and beyond the call of duty. Time for him to figure out if he can save himself.

I do worry if he needs professional help. I'm not knowledgable enough to say or give advice, but please take it seriously.

Take care Cat, I'm thinking of you and praying for you.