Aud, Matilda, PS, and Jak, I was out dancing at my weekday venue, and had a wonderful time. My W and I practiced before I left, but she decided to stay home and go to bed early. I'm starting to feel like part of the gang there. I left feeling connected and happy. People ask where my W is and I give a vague answer to protect her privacy.
I've been sending her email support about her job crisis. She tends to get paralyzed and overwhelmed, so I asked her some questions to help clarify her priorities and break her feelings of powerlessness. She was able to articulate some short-term and long-term goals, update her resume, and draft a resignation letter.
She's worried about a loss of income if she were to resign, but she does have her cooking income as a safety net. I told her the best decision is the one that will help her to move forward. Standard advice is to have a job lined-up before resigning from your current one, but this rule doesn't seem to work with my W. She stays too long at jobs she's unhappy with, to the point of not being able to tolerate any more. Resigning and adding a part-time job to her cooking job may be the best interim plan. She's appreciative of my advice.
She shared that financial stress reminds her of times when she was hungry during earlier parts of her life. She has a difficult time cutting-back on expenses. It "pushes some emotional buttons" in her. She asked me to not fret about money, or to say we can't afford things.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
