Please clarify on this... I'm not defending IC, but these attraction killers?...other than this latest of course. Yes I made the analogy of the little girl in the wagon...but no, I'm not a child and I don't feel that way.
Women have a hard enough time staying focused on themself and working on their own half of the equation allready, so No, I wont be clarifying here.
For ex, as soon as I said to SG that I agreed about something in LFL's sitch she and others (not all) immediately went back to ...How do we fix Mr. LFL. Its amazing. There is a school in switzerland that teaches men sex. Its run by women of course, so I know its possible for a woman to be able to step past her own insecurities and deal with a sexually repressed/suppressed/immature man. Assuming he wants to be dominated based on zero info, is just a silly as assuming he wants to engage in rape fantasies. I think a good first step would be just talking about fantasy's. LFL could easily start that by talking about hers. (to him, not on here.)Scary stuff.
I would be happy to talk to IC by email, at some point. Its in my profile. Im honestly not real worried that he wont be able to address it, as soon as he sees it. While the flirting is mentionable, Its not about the flirting. It takes two to flirt. any woman on here could have easily have said to IC, 'what you are doing makes me uncomfortable. Please stop.' and implemented their own boundary.
It works quite well. Ive done it more then once here, to clearly draw the lines in the sand, becasue untill IC got here I was probably the biggest flirt.
with the exception of the odd troll, everyone here is quite respectful, and understanding. I dont recollect seeing anyone do that with IC, who now claims to be bothered by it. Interesting that it comes up now.
Hang in there IC. when it rains it pours. Put on your gear, and get ready to get wet.
