Ok, fair assumption and I'm not going to dispute you...I can't. My intentions where not to relieve my anxieties and contrary to what my actions define...I have a tremendous love for my wife and to stop from seeing her being eaten alive by her anxiety, IMO, I had to reveal the root cause of it. Yes it hurt her, yes I was wrong, yes I did this and that blah, blah blah... The truth remains the same....I did it and I can't change that. Am I remorseful? Yes, and not the old line "remorseful that it was discovered" I knew it was wrong beforehand, I knew it was wrong as it was occuring, remorseful enough to leave right in the middle of it....it doesn't change a thing! I did it and I'm to blame. And whatever Miss IC decides, I'll have to live and respect that decision. LFL, what is it you want to hear from me? I'm not upset....I'm lost!
I don't want to hear anything in particular from you. You asked a question so I answered it. Look, I'm no better than you. I'm lost myself. Maybe you just need to spend more time examining why you are so lost to begin with? It didn't happen because of the A, it most likely led to the A. Until you figure that out, your W has no reason to trust you. Sorry.