Mixed Signals - version 13...

[catfan]

Well I got to thinking Key West would be a cool and warm place to go for NYE. I checked on flights and such, well it was a nice idea until I got the cost of flights.

Well things appear to be on a more positive swing again. Man is it just me or do both of us swing emotionally a bit too much? We had lunch yesterday and it was really good. Chatted about all kinds of things but mainly about kids, school and work, like friends catching up on everything. Lunch is also our designated time to have more serious discussions too. So I brought up that I had been reading the 5 languages of apology as part of my continued self improvement. I then asked her what she felt made for a sincere apology. She answered almost immediately, acceptance of responsibility and changed behavior. So I asked her to rate me on how she felt I did at apologizing. Her answer, just ok. Seems she felt I didn't do so well on the behavior aspects of apologies. Fair enough and I would assess myself exactly the same. (I didn't say that to her.) She did ask if she could borrow the book when I was finished and of course I said yes and that I hope that she finds it useful.

I also brought up our challenge from last Friday and how it was rooted in communication. I apologized for not being specific in what I could do and reiterated the solution I have in place for making sure she gets the money in a timely fashion.

I then brought up Retrouvaille to her saying I felt it was something we could both benefit from since it's focus is on communication skills within a relationship. I said that I felt it was something each of us could benefit from personally for future relationships no matter how we end up. She's interested in learning more about it.(Her reaction was much more open minded towards it and I actually felt she will seriously consider it this time.) So I told her I'd forward the information I received from them to her so she could learn more.

Now the interesting twist to the next local Retrouvaille weekend, it falls on the 3 days just before our 19th wedding anniversary. So it's got the potential to be a very highly charged and emotional weekend for us if we do attend.

So after all of the above we had "Santa" dinner with our closest couple friends and their kids last night. This is something she set up and something we've done with these friends for probably 8-9 years. We had a great time together and honestly for me it felt like we were one big happy family.

And to top it all off, this morning I found out she's told a few coworkers that we are having Christmas together.

All of this just makes me stop and say hmmm....

Well I can't do anything more than accept each event as a positive moment and nothing more, no expectations beyond them, just enjoy the moment so to speak.