H said our M is "platonic"

[Kettricken]

As I see it, the point that Corri was trying to make is that you can't expect the sex in a long term committed relationship to be like affair sex. In a marriage especially, the stakes always feel so much higher. Even if there was emotional connection between you and OM (and I'm not one of those who says "Oh, it's all fake, it's a lie, what you have with your H. is real, etc",) .... you weren't together enough and committed enough to experience the wax and wane and shifts of a "real" sex life. Maybe it would have still been spectacular, but also maybe not .... so try not to torture yourself with might-have-beens.