If I gave the impression that fcukups have occurred in the past, I'm sorry. If you want to classify the hiding of the cancer & the situation with his dad as fcukups, then yes, they've happened before. The situation with his dad, I'm not going to hold him accountable for that....it was a long time ago. It was a pain that he held onto for a long long time and still does. It had nothing to do with me but I pushed and pushed until IC finally revealed.
The cancer on the other hand, I can't let slide as easy....that does involve me. I can see his motives for trying to hide that from me. I know better and better how he works and I can honestly say that IC thought he was protecting me by withholding telling me like he did....doesn't make it right, but I see his motives.
I guess what I'm getting at is that before this latest incident was revealed...I trusted IC with my life, completely....except for matters that dealt with him and his physical and emotional well being...like with his knee - I know it hurt, but yet he tells me it didn't. Kwim? I've always known in what areas I could trust IC, and in what areas I've tried to build a trust from him to be able to feel comfortable enough in me to allow his pent up emotions or pains to come out. He's breached that line of trust and now I don't know what to believe in anymore
