Please help--Need advice!!!

[Patrick325]

I think our love life grew stale. I was going to bed earlier because of my new job. We were making love on weekends, 3 times a week most times. I am a somewhat critical person and I have said some mean things to her. We spent a lot of energy on the kids. I am a little anal about cleaning, bedtimes, that kind of stuff. In C I agreed with her about a lot of her complaints and was willing to change those habits. She said I was taking her for granted, didn't plan any time with her, controlling. She was definitley right about my lack of planning... we went out with the family a lot(2 cruises, road trips to minn, nc, boston). the two of us went to vegas, a cruise, but she planned most of the trips 100%. I was the driver and the muscle. But she seemed to enjoy it so I let her handle it. She said I took her for granted when i didn't notice she lost 15 lbs. I told her I loved her body any way it was...but I guess i did take her for granted....but every bday, valentines,Christmas I bought cards and gifts--never forgot a anniversary, etc. I could be controlling in some ways but let her travel to NY with her sister, go to east coast shopping with friends...never complained or said "no"...she used to hate me going out onMonday nights with the guys for Football. She would be pissed all the time. But I would blow it off...I told her to have an all girls night out..but she couldn't et her friends to do it. I know I screwed up in a lot of ways but I just want a chance to change...I can do it, but maybe it's too late...I offered to stop the football but she didn't want her brother and my friends to think she was a bitch.