If it makes you feel any better I think this is ONE of the issues that H and I have. I can be sexually agressive but I am not dominant. I was pretty agressive during our dating (yeah - I'm a big dummy). I think I was fighting the voice of ex-H in the back of my head telling me that I'm not sexy AND lying to myself that H was just inexperienced not disinterested. It is really crazy making. I'm sure that you have taken steps outside your comfort zone but he corresponding passiveness on his side just makes you want to jump back in. The animal that most represents my sexuality right now is a hibernating bear. If that bear wakes up it will be hungry and P!ssed.
Thanks Karen. I know you can relate. I kept telling myself "but he's such a good guy, so sweet, so nice, so funny, so smart, so..." and really ignored the elephant in the room which was that our SL sucked from the beginning. Dumb, dumb, dumb.
But on a lighter note, I'm going shopping for my own sexy little outfit to wear out with my friends tomorrow. Can't wait to just get away from the stress!
