WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..(2)

[COG]

Jab,

You're doing fine! Keep on doing what your doing because it's working.

Regarding initiating contact. Well, that's a tough one. You just have to feel it out, go with the flow, pray about it and listen for an answer. She may very well be continually initiating contact because she wants to make sure your okay, your still connected, maybe even keeping tabs on you. Now if you start the initiating, she might not have any reason for it anymore. I think it's fine to initiate, but just allow the proper balance to flow.

Regarding the telephone bill: I say just pay that darned thing and forget about it. No good will come from snooping. It'll just make YOU more miserable. Because what will you do if you see his number there again, or several times? Will you confront her about it? Will the confrontation improve your R?

It is your own insecurity and fear that are pressuring you to look at the phone bill. Beware the tactics of the dark one. Fear, insecurity, those little seeds of doubt. Very subtle, but can change the course of history. Your need to see the telephone bill is more about YOU and less about her. Take stock of that. Fight the temptation. If she is having an affair you will find out eventually. She won't be able to hide it. So in the meantime, allow yourself to be vulnerable, live in the moment, cherish every breath you take, and allow your W the freedom to live.

God Bless,

COG