Recently Married into a sexless marriage

[bombardier50]

RE: Doing a 180.

There's an old Seinfeld episode where George does the opposite of everything he would normally be inclined to do. He's amazed at the response.

Here's what you do. Starting right now, stop asking for sex. Don't even act like you're interested in sex. Act is if you're getting laid every night. Don't mope around. Don't cry, beg, or plead. BACK OFF and give her lots of space. Act happy and cheerful, but not annoyingly so. Focus on yourself. Find a project, hobby, something that will engross you. And be patient. Continue this behavior without fail for several days and see what happens. This behavior drove my wife nuts, and she finally started talking to me again.

She will ask questions about your behavior. My wife asked me "Are you on drugs or something?" Don't be surprised if she suddenly decides to initiate sex. If she does, be prepared for a backlash. She will probably tell you it sucked for her. And you say: "Sorry honey. But it sure clicked for me." And go back to being your normal happy self, and don't ask for any more sex.

Give it a try for a while. You got nothing to lose. Keep us posted on how it works.

And Hairdog's right. Quit killing yourself with your expectations.