180's by the way have to be made for you and NO ONE ELSE, otherwise these changes do not last
I wanted to applaud this statement and add that you identify areas of your life for immprovement and you go about the business of making changes to those areas. You will make missteps along the way. You will try things and realize that some things are not for you. But you keep trying. Change doesn't always come in a neat package. And even without marital problems, you should always be looking for ways to improve yourself.
A little story. I remember this guy talking one day about some fellow who was in recovery for drugs. He said when this guy first came to recovery he was a drug-addicted a-hole, now three years later he is clean and just an a-hole. So while a change may look substantial, sometimes there really is no change. AS time goes on, a thoughtful person will recognize this.
