My C told me exactly the same thing. You were the adult in the relationship. Someone had to be. Not only did we have 3 children, but one of them had serious, life threatening medical concerns. And it is ongoing. H was just not up to it.
Did your ex ever call you "Mom". I HATED when he said that. I told him I was a wife not a mother to him. I think he felt he lost out in childhood (says his mother never told him she loved him). It was his dad that was a writeoff - alcoholic, distant - guess that's what teen parents of 6 kids can be like.
Maggot is a spoiled child. Her ex told me her dad gave her everything and she never had to work at it. Said he treated her like a princess but it wasn't enough. She wanted more. Says she saw my house, my cars and especially my daughter (she only had a son) and she wanted all of those things. Funny thing is - yes she got the husband (what a treat he is) and the convertible (its now 15 years old and he can't afford a new one). I kept the rest. And I honestly think the blinders are starting to come off and they can now see what they got.
