It is true that one can look at the whole issue in very graphic and very severe ways. Michelle said in one cd that if you don't have an affair with your spouse someone else will. I am not saying it applies here, but I believe for long term healing and happiness we have to become better people as individuals and then by extension as a couple. If we can do that we can or should be able to deal with any temptations and such.
I know that but a month ago I would not have said that, and I still say no to any contact other than what cannot be avoided in the social or curling circumstances. The OM's W insists on no contact and I think that if there ever was any she would freak. Not that it makes anything easier or more logical.
Who knows what the dynamic will be in the future. I am beginning to understand that the "bond" that they created occupied much if not all of their emotional space and it was overwhelming so the void is also a large one left behind. I am not trying to back fill it, just building a bridge to get over it.
I have my boys christmas luncheon and my W is going out with the babes, she said that I should stop by the restuarant on my way home and say hello, not to stay, but just say hello, I thought that was nice.
merry Christmas Everyone, and sending love and happiness your way as well,
