Well, when she called last night it did not go well. I should have just not spoken. But, I broke one of my rules and basically wanted to talk. Stupid of me. After her first sentence, I said, "sweetheart, I whatever". She immediately fired back that I was not her sweetheart. It was a slip of course she hammered me for it. She hung up wanting to talk to 5D. I called back and said here is 5D and I wanted to talk back with her. When I got back on the phone, I told her I was sorry for what happened. I said that the note said something different. It hurt me because it made me feel like I could not take care of my family. I know that you missed your x-mas party(which is crap because she only missed maybe 5minutes) and I am sorry. I understand you were in a panic of motherly instinct of oh my goodness who is taking care of 5D. She listened to all of this and then just got angry with that evil tone. She spoke of putting up with this stuff for a 11 years(married amount time) but nothing that made sense. Like she was so mad that she could not speak. She then said that do not try to understand how she feels.
Positives 1) I was calm and not angry 2) I explained what happened.
Negatives 1) I should not have spoken to her. 2) I let her get angry about a simple misunderstanding 3) I over-validated apparently 4) Said sweetheart by mistake 5) I apologized more than once...stupid...she does not accept it or anything I do now. 6) I explained myself...she does not want to hear it. Should not bother with it. 7) She got off phone first again.
I am sick of getting hammered with her evil comments. I am going as dark as possible to take the anger out of her and give me peace. Only problem is that I have to decide about attorney stuff. It costs a fortune that I do not have. Since, she cannot win a fault case, I could work on the no-fault on my own until necessary.
