Fantasies of submissive sex do not make a person gay. I think you need to read OT's post again.
And I don't think MJ was calling either one of you gay... what she was saying is that if both of you have a preference for being the 'submissive' one during sex, attraction for each other will be absent... kind of like having two positive charges, or two yin's...
you know... opposites attract... that doesn't mean you prefer women or he prefers men... it may mean that sexually, your male/female energies are not balanced.
Yeah, sorry OT, Corri, and MJ, I'm just in a funk about the whole thing and I think your point is probably correct. I think we are both submissive sexually. Not gay, just submissive.
H knows my fantasies usually involve a man being very dominant with me. Not any S&M stuff, just very aggressive. My H is very uncomfortable doing that(and I guess I am too) so.....lack of sex is the result.
