GGG- What it means to me.

[MJontheMend]

Okay, shortly before we split-up we threw virtually all of our debt into our house. Right after we split, the housing market in Michigan collapsed. My 2bx was making approximately 4x what he is making now before we split and theoretically he was going to pay child support and payments towards the mutual debt portion of our mortgage until the house sold or our D16 graduated which would have made the mortgage just barely affordable for me. My business is the most valuable marital asset at this point but it is an asset that represents a good part of my future income in the form of inventory. My 2bx says I should just let the house foreclose because he is just going to declare bankruptcy because he has accumulated a lot of debt since our split by doing things like abandoning his apartment etc. I won't declare bankruptcy because although I frequently make a monkey-mess of things, I'm not "careless" in the sense that SG once defined it of being somebody who lets other people clean up after her plus I own a business. So basically I have been left with all the assets and all the debt and all the financial and parental responsibilities from our marriage and I haven't quite got a grip on how to deal with it and I'm angry at myself because probably I should have been working two jobs instead of going around all concerned about "bunkey" issues even though I would have simultaneously been bailing my 2bx out of a good portion of his responsibilities while covering my own.

Anyways, I guess what I'm saying is that this is the last area of lingering marital fusion and I just need to deal with it.