Dad, One of the things I've thought as I've read through your thread was that your wife may be Bipolar.
Yep, that's what the counselor told me as well (based on what I have described, but not as a diagnosis....yet) Also, she believes her to be afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and that makes a lot of sense as well.
Originally Posted By: Sakaro
You really have to find that out before I think any progress can be made. Its scary how alot of the symptons of Bipolar and MLC go hand in hand. I think the main difference is MLC the Walkaway seems to hate their spouse. With Bipolar the Walkaway hates their spouse but they hate themself as well.
My wife does in fact have a very low self esteem and negative body image.
Originally Posted By: Sakaro
I have a Bipolar wife who walked out in Sept 06. She had the affair, got herself 30K in debt, wanted to pull our daughter out of a 5 star school because it wasnt convienient to her new apartment and really just screwed up a pretty damn good life she had for herself. She hit rock bottom when her boyfriend dumped her because she was pregnant, our daughter hated her apartment because it was infested with fleas and bill collectors were calling her everyday threatening legal action.
WOW......!!! That is brutal, to say the least. Sorry for what you and your daughter have gone through.
Originally Posted By: Sakaro
If your wife is like mine she was so unhappy with things that she knew being without you would make things better...and for a short period of time it did. But now she realizes it wasnt you she was unhappy with, it was herself.
I'm not so sure that my wife realizes yet that her unhappiness is really all about her, not about me. There are signs that this may be changing, but there is no real way to tell.
Originally Posted By: Sakaro
The affair and lavish spending were just a bandaid to cover up her real pain. She is unhappier than ever but now has financial problems,has cheated on her husband and broken up her family too. Get her to see a shrink even if you have to without any more handouts to get her to agree with it.
Yeah, her bandaid is now peeling off to expose the wound underneath. I had a very brief chat with her at the kids school today, regarding the kids, and I have to say that she is not looking real good. She is way too thin, and her face and complexion look about fifteen years older than the stupid picture she has on her even stupider myspace page. This is all wearing on her pretty badly, no doubt. She supposedly had her first session today with the psychologist, and I can only pray that there are many, many more to come.
