W wouldn't initiate without the feeling, but she isn't shy either. With what has been happening, I'm condom ready and who knows. But I do know there is no way I could resist her, no way. I would like to think I have that will power, but ya, it ain't happen.
PhD,
The phone call doesn't bother me like you think, W has always been like this. She could leave work be 2 hours late, call her no answer. Then another hour later she would call crying and lost. Very independent. We used to live in Vegas, and she can't read maps or find directions, but she could find her way home if she could find the stratosphere. We couldn't live farther from it, she would leave down the block and return hours later, trust me nothing was happening. I would be on the phone with her for hours, saying turn left, blah blah, finally she would say she is going to the Stratosphere and would be home then.
Even now, we have lived within the same two exits of the interstate for a year. The apartment before the house, the house, and her new apartment. If she gets off the second one she can't get home, even with me in the car. She will get back on the highway and drive to the other one to find her way.
So it has always been, oh I forgot. In fact her mother constantly says to her "Focus" and W gets so pissed. She is just one of those amazing book smart people, but she can't figure out how to empty the vacuum and get it back together.
It is frustrating for sure, but not in a R or DB'ing way. So by me not actually mentioning it is a good validation thing. Since she has been staying at the house, I leave early for work, she sleeps in. I ask each time that she lock the house up. I come home and the back door is unlocked, the front as well, luckily the garage is down. I normally would call her and say WTF, but I haven't even brought it up. It's just how her mind works. She does it to friends, family as well. So it's not a burn me type thing.
W called me tonight minutes after she finished her last counseling session. Still had paper work to do. We were talking, good convo, nothing heavy, then I lost her. Tried to call back and nothing.
Well I worry, because it is at parole and probation, so I text her "Could you let me know your OK?" No response. Then hours later, I text "Could you please let me know your OK, I don't want you hurt." She phoned right back, I'm fine, sorry, I was in the car on the highway when you TM'ed me and I was going to get back to you when I got home but forgot (see above). Talked for like 30 minutes, I did a lot of validating. I'm reading the Men are from Mars...and she complained about it all and I just listened. Got a huge thank you for that, said she wished she came over tonight after that.
So I think I'm seeing good steps. Also, she now feels she is bi-polar, says she can recognize the swings. From sleeping on my floor, to being super happy amazing worker today. She kept saying how it wasn't normal and wants to get checked. Hmmm?
