What does my XW Want?

[Confused_in_AZ]

I delivered a gift to my realtor the other night who has been going through a real difficult time lately. She has known my XW for YEARS, like since two years old. Actually, the XW is renting property she manages.

It was a very great conversation. It is so great to get someone else's observations. It was funny, told her about my "date" the other night and she just laughed. Response: why are you divorced again? Yeah, not sure why.

This week, with Christmas and all, I am thinking about stopping and giving my ex-inlaws a gift. They got me something last Christmas (not expected) and feel like I need to but I want to. Not sure if it will make headway with the XW, but will definately make me feel good after all that is going on with them.

Anyone have any experience with this one? While we are divorced, we are not emotionally together. While I have been out and in the dating world, the more I have been out there, the more I realize that the person that I am looking for I have already found and was married to for 9 years. While I try to move on........I don't think I will ever feel like I am not cheating, or actually holding out hope for her. Is that wrong?

I have thought about writing a love letter to her for Christmas but figure that is WAY over the edge. Just not sure what to do. Last year, we did the WHAT DO WE DO thing. I gave a gift certificate...she gave me fudge. What in 07?