wants to "talk" tomorrow

[forward]

Given that H made comments just this week that he wanted D, I think he is going to spring more D conversation on me tomorrow.

I know we say "no expectations" but my expectation is that H wants to D. He had some time to talk to L so that's probably what he has been doing.

I've decided that I need to remain calm and simply say "OK." I don't want to fight over things when we have no idea how this fits into a true legal picture. That is what we pay lawyers for, to represent our interests. It is just a business transaction now.

I have seen little interest in me. Very slight and occasional, it seems.

I need to make less of an effort. I am just tired and worn out.

[onceuponatime]

Mrs H,

I don't think I've postd to you before, and havent been here lately, but, you don't know what he's going to talk about.. could be something totally different. I never guess right. I stew and stew, and I am so happy when I have not jumped the gun, and commented on whatever it was I thought H wanted to talk about. Even when I think he's not talking to me for some reason, and it turns out he was just very very busy. I know, you know your husband better than us, just saying, I usually guess wrong. Try to chill till you find out what it is he wants to, just incase you're wrong. Just because it's been a while, doesn't mean he's going to do anything at all. I kept thinking H would file D after 6 mo with OW, because it's so easy in our state. It's > 3 years living with OW, and he hasn't done it.

Just a thought, hope it helps yo ua little.
Once

[missmyfriend]

Breton, it depends on what your goals are. We all know from reading about MLC that they sometimes need the D to continue their journey. It is up to you if you want more to the story or this is where it ends. For me, my W has to do all the work if she wants a D. I have told her that I will not stop her. I told her that only she wants the D. I still love her. And this is the only way I can show her that I love her. By letting her go.

It still hurt like hell. I am not going to paint a rosey picture. As much as she has put me through and what the children have gone through, it is not what I want.

She shows no interest in me as well. Well, she has started to be friendly with me lately but she has backed off again.

It is okay to prepare for the worst but expect the best. If he says he has filed, be prepared so you can stay strong.

[TRUSTING]

For all you know he wants to tell you about his hemmorrhoids.

He may not even show up.

I know Breton this is crazy. I tired too.

[forward]

He will show up but he may choose not to talk.

It hadn't occurred to me to be prepared that he might have filed. I do need to be prepared for the worst because he's been talking D since Sept I guess now.

[celestial]

Breton

Whatever he talks about, validate his feelings. Maybe he needs you to just listen to him. If he wants to discuss a D, tell him you need a little time to think.

Celestial

[forward]

H said nothing.

That said, it would not surprise me if he springs something on me again after the holiday. I've read that January is a busy month for D lawyers, sigh.

I offered him some dinner, which he picked at, and I was listening quite happily to some music and singing. I have been in a good mood since I got treatment for depression.

Then I went upstairs and did some things to get ready for my trip and that was the extent of contact.

[TRUSTING]

H lost his courage.

I am glad you got something for the depression, I had to too.

You handled it well. My guess is that you got him thinking.

[Punktmann]

I need to make less of an effort. I am just tired and worn out.

Yep. BTDT. Take a break. Enjoy YOURSELF.

[forward]

Now H says he wants to talk after the holidays.

Well, given that things cannot get worse, I figure it does not really matter and i am off to have a peaceful and interesting holiday.