Maybe not too complicated to understand

[Michael Mc C]

So you all thought the above would be enough adventure for me in a single night... Guess not. I sent an email to a friend and in the mail I mentioned that I have real concerns about W's apparent addictions - and I believe they really are addictions now - her online game and alcohol.

Both D11 and D13 have commented to me about the time spent on the game and they have commented to W about the drinking. S8 loves video games so he thinks EverQuest is cool. He also hasn't gone through D.A.R.E. so I'm not sure he is too aware of the affects of alcohol.

I thought I would try to touch on the subject tonight with W. If nothing else I wanted to plant a seed.

Her maximum time on the game in a single session was 14 hours. She averages approximately 4 hours a night now (I don't really keep track anymore though). As for drinking, she had 8 beers in 3 hours last night. Her normal drink is wine and in a single night she can kill a 1.5 liter bottle. So can I, I suppose, but not on a nightly basis. Tonight she was hitting boxed wine (much cheaper). I saw that she had about 1/3 of it so far (interestingly enough, that's 1.6 liters...)

I was downstairs when she said she was having a problem with the internet. I told her she should reboot. She was too tired so I stopped and asked if we could have a quick conversation. I told her I had concerns about the habits and that she seems to be escaping.

"Yes, I am probably escaping. But I don't want to talk about it tonight. I want to go to sleep, go to work tomorrow and just get through life day by day."

The inflection of that last bit was definitely in the key of "sad". I knew it had absolutely nothing to do with us, it was OM. The old me would have asked her to confirm this - I'm not sure why, maybe for validation or just to hear her admit once again that she has been unfaithful emotionally.

I didn't say anything more than "Okay, good night". A 180 for me.

I'm sure she didn't even notice the 180 but it wasn't meant for her. It felt so good to just let it drop. Sure it's small but it's something.

In the end, I'm not sure if a seed was planted or not.

Rob1231 - I found 5LL in a local B&N. Had hoped to pick it up tonight on the way to MC but was running late. I'll definitely have it by the end of the week.