No plans for the holidays. They were still a couple weeks out and we had been talking so much that I figured that we would get to it later. Then this no contact stuff happened. I plan to call her and wish her a merry Christmas. I'll hold off on contact until then.
Think she'll have anything planned for Christmas Eve or something? I'd be tempted to see if she wanted to go for dinner, or come over to your house for dinner. Worst she will say is no, and you'll be just where you are right now. Don't be needy or clingy - Just be friendly and try to make it fun for both of you. I don't get why your W went all quiet all of a sudden, but it's probably not going to make things worse if you do it the right way.
Originally Posted By: bhopeful
I sent Christmas cards to her parents and grandparents since I still consider them family. Hopefully that doesn't rock the boat too much. I guess we'll see...
I wouldn't worry about it - I'm not sure what your relationships are like with W's family, but they're a part of your life. I'm getting card delivered to my house from W's family because I don't think most of them know that anything is going on...
Originally Posted By: bhopeful
As a side note, I just noticed that she's logged into IM. I'm not going to write her anything, but this is the first time that she's been logged on in over a week. It means nothing I know, but I'm just observing I guess...
IM is okay if you have a relationship in 'reality', but I would avoid it for now. I talk with my W a lot on IM, and it really has a very 'empty' feeling. My W usually initiates contact that way every day, so we have pretty consistent contact day in, day out. Drives me nuts at times, because I know it's mostly just 'fluff' conversation, but it's better than nothing.
