Ok, just when I thought I had this stuff down I've been thrown another curve.
Our sitch (as briefly as humanly possible) Married 7 years (the itch?), 2 children, 4 houses, opened 1 business, 1 business relocation, one child sexually assulted, 2 year difficult trial, I developed PTSD (shut down), both wife's parents die, wife says, "I don't know who I am", "I just want to runaway", "I want to live a life, feel passion" CLASSIC, TEXTBOOK, SEVERE CASE OF MLC. She wants us to still be "family" and has commented she will probaly marry me again someday. Separated one year, she filed in Aug, no further action. OM off/on (on now).
Problem: She wants me to take kids week of New Years (her week) so she can go on a sking trip to CO. with boyfriend. She hasn't told me going withn boyfriend, I learned from our kids. Hiding what she is doing with boyfriend is a new behavior for her, second time she's done this in the past month and a half. Before she didn't give a rat's ___ if I knew. If I take the kids I will feel that I am enabling her to continue affair, but if don't she will find somebody, (read ANYBODY) to care for kids so she can go. DD 8 opined tonight that it will be unfair for them (children) to have to be with a babysitter for 1/2 of their Christmas break. On a much less important note WAS commented this was the "chance of a lifetime" for her and will no doubt blame me if I don't cooperate with her and make this possible for her. Her spew was vitrolic in the begining, but she has not spewed, showed anger in past 2 months (a record). I have not gone dark, have been plan "A"ing for a year and she has noticed.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
