There ARE men who very much enjoy assertive women, and having her lead the entire way through sex... and women who very much enjoy BEING the assertive one. That isn't bad... you just have to know what you like, and have to be honest in expressing it.
I gotta be picky and point out that being assertive and being dominant aren't necessarily the same thing. A submissive can assertively signal "F*ck me, f*ck me, f*ck me." (nobody you guys know). Although I guess it is kind of hard to imagine a passive dominant unless you just think of a big cat yawning and then lazily pinning an annoyingly hyper monkey-girl with one paw with an apparently effortless gesture.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
