Hi everyone - I have a question that maybe someone can help me with. My H dropped the bomb in march and at first he was really mean and distant but now he's been acting nicer towards me and not as distant. Anyway I thought that things were getting better between us because we've been talking(not about R) and he's been laughing with me and looking me in the eye. I really thought that he was coming around but then yesterday he told me to retain my lawyer. I think my H is in the depression stage so what I was wondering is H doing touch and go's with me? Also I've read that they dont come back to there spouses until the end of withdrawal and I was wondering if they do still come back even if they are pushing for a D. Right now it seems that my H really wants this D but is there a chance that when he does get to withdrawal that his mind could just change? I just dont see how he would change his mind because the retainer fee is kind of expensive and at first he was a little upset about the price but after he got his Christmas bonus he told me to pay the retainer. Anyway I guess I'm just hoping that he'll stop the D but until then I have to go with the D. Could he change his mind and stop the D when he gets to withdrawal or when it gets to the point where we have retained L does that mean I have no hope. I really cant imagine him paying all of this money for the L and then not going through with D but all I can do is hope. Thanks for listening and any advice would be appreciated.
