Fantasies of submissive sex do not make a person gay. I think you need to read OT's post again.
And I don't think MJ was calling either one of you gay... what she was saying is that if both of you have a preference for being the 'submissive' one during sex, attraction for each other will be absent... kind of like having two positive charges, or two yin's...
you know... opposites attract... that doesn't mean you prefer women or he prefers men... it may mean that sexually, your male/female energies are not balanced.
There ARE men who very much enjoy assertive women, and having her lead the entire way through sex... and women who very much enjoy BEING the assertive one. That isn't bad... you just have to know what you like, and have to be honest in expressing it.
