I'm not sure what the asset picture looks like. Who has been doing what, but if I had my chance again I would hire a PI to follow W on a couple of occasions. One that gets video. Not to prove anything, but in a divorce, I've learned this, they are going to say and do anything.
My next door neighbor is on his third M, his 2nd W left claiming he was hitting her. Well he saw the writing on the wall prior to this. At D mediation, they walked in with a VCR and TV, said he would make sure her whole family saw it. She left the house the next day, didn't get crap and he kept custody of the kids.
So just protect yourself. My W was saying all the same things. Then even in court she wanted to be nice, ya you should have seen the affidavit's they submitted about me. Thanks dear!