.I've seen the before and after of him telling me about the cancer...and I'm seeing the before of ?????? that is still eating at him.
And you found out when he was ready, didn't you? He may not have done it perfect, but you still found out.
So... when you were feeling LD... when IC hounded you about sex and having more of it with him... did you feel more inclined or less inclined to have sex with him?
Same applies here.
The only dif that applies, IC, is IF there is something to tell and you are not saying so just to get through the holidays or to protect your W/kids... it's admirable on one level... but on another... very condescending... and hurtful, to your W.
