Did she take him back? Did she tit for tat him w/ the OM? Did they decide to work on this? Any chance his current unattractive behavior has her looking for justifications to get away from him? Is he abusive? Is he an addict? Is she part of the problem? Did she work on her part that caused him to want to get away?
BF You know I take responsibility for my part in this mess. I've always admitted that I was a real PITA about the lack of sex and probably made the situation much worse with my b#tchy behavior. I don't like how you said I "caused" him to flee. That's not fair and places way too much responsibility on my shoulders for his bad decisions. That is a double standard BF. You wouldn't place that blame on yourself, would you? should you?
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How do you know he didnt want to get away becasue she wasnt respecting him and caring from him how he wanted? But HE should 'MAN UP'. Right?
uhm...right. Did he ever once TELL me that this was the case ? (which I'm sure it could have been, looking back). I was not always nice about the SL issue. He never really told me how much it was hurting him though. He never said stop being such a b#tch. He never said a word. I don't consider that manly or respectable. So, yeah, that's a big problem.
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She knows he isnt going anywhere again. She is icked out by him. Its all about the attraction.
I wouldn't say "icked" out by him because that implies that I am always viewing him that way, which is not the case. I DO find the fact that he "isn't going anywhere" now as very attractive and manly. He is solidified in his mind as to what he wants and he is confident. Very attractive. I have never once seen him waver since we got back together. He lets me go off on my rants now and then and he is Solid, Constant, and Calm in his response to me. Also very attractive. So it's not all icky. I wouldn't take a man back who was just icky.
