I'm seeing light, now what?

[BeingMe]

Sounds like a step in the right direction, Phoenix. I hope it goes up from there. Do you ever say anything during testimony, about family and how you feel about her? The way some H's express themselves at that time, often brings tears to my eyes, and I wish that my H could say the same, but it's just not him, I guess. Sometimes (certainly, in my case), a woman just wants affirmation/validation that her man actually gets her. When the C asked my H why he married me, and why he loved me, all he could say was that I was fun. Couldn't even express his admiration for my being a good mom, or anything like that. I found that more hurtful in some ways then his A. He seemed to find more things wrong with me, than was right with me. While I came up with a list of more than the 10 things the C requested.

I don't know if this helps you, but I think you are the type who does try and 'get' your W. Just make sure she knows it. I am glad you are finding a way to say what you think is important. Those things are what we women remember, in the end .... what tilts the sitch favourably toward our H's.

Any thoughts on the upcoming Christmas season? Doing anything exciting?