You were all right...unfortunately...

[Kettricken]

Bomb, let me say that I totally feel for you in this and you have my very best wishes for getting through it. (I'm still trying to wrap my head around the actions of a person who would nag her husband to take and photoshop nude pictures of her for the benefit of her affair partner and then add insult to injury by rejecting her husband's sexual advances in the wake of the photo session.)

Keep those cojones firmly attached.

I'm puzzled about something, though:

I hope she chooses me, of course. Why? I guess because I know that her best chance of being truly happy is by staying with me. If I ever come to the realization that that is no longer true, then I'll stop trying.

That's all about what you think best for her. It has about zero to do with what YOU want. What do you *really* want? for yourself? Do you *really* want to be with a person who behaves/treats you like this? I'm absolutely not trying to influence you one way or the other .... it's just that the way you answered Choc's question almost sounded like deflection. I wonder if you've really asked yourself if you still want to be married to her. That doesn't necessarily need to change what you're going to do, if you are morally/ethically committed to the marriage regardless. But I think you need to ask yourself very honestly what your desires are here.....