Aud,
Just peeking in for a moment and good to see you are struttin' right along.

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I think that my hesitancy stems from not being absolutely sure of my own feelings...I don't want to fire off everything on the tip of my tongue and end up with a war zone, so I hold back to pick my battles. Things smooth over pretty quickly and often, before I've had time to decide if they're worth fighting over or not.


This in a nutshell is how I feel on a minute by minute basis and a HUGE hurdle for me to overcome. It hampers my life quite a bit. I feel like a general constantly strategizing manuevers before any war has begun. You have far more insight than I do and seem to be working through it far better. Kudos to you !

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But I also think he's pretty clear that I am perfectly capable of handling life on my own, and it's his family to lose.


Isn't this just the FOUNDATION of everything! Keep sight of this statement and all dust will be eliminated and I'm sure the battles will be less intense. It's good to know you are still moving steady.....if I don't happen to stumble into your thread before Christmas....MERRY CHRISTMAS! I think our christmas's will be a lot better than last years peace