Cat, I leave for awhile and lookee here....men fleeing from windows and smart a$$ responses from a smoking gun with breasts! I am sorry Cat that you are going this direction but only because it will throw more undeserved bruises to your emotional precense. You have gone WAY over the call of duty and turned over every rock for some sort of assurance you could place your confidence in. It is not your fault that all you uncovered was sh!t. Your children will be fine and you will flourish after letting these wounds heal. You are an incredible woman and you should be awfully proud of yourself that you aren't carrying a large bundle of bitterness. I haven't been able to peer in as often as I usually do but will try to make more of an effort. Now I will giddily expect the new transformation of your new life that will carry everything you deserve....GOOD things for a change..Peace
