Adventures of Supermom...JennyF's 2nd thread

[blindsided1]

Listen to your own advice Jenny, you are NOT a mind reader. You don't know he is thinking of OW. Stop beating yourself up over Saturday's conversation. You'll do better next time. The more you focus on him the more control you are giving him over your emotions. It's okay to take the control back. This is a huge issue for me. I'm not good at taking control of my emotions. Here is what my C told me to do when I start focusing on him. It may help, it may not. Try it.

1. Say the word "Abundance". Realize that there is an abundance of joy, love and happiness in this world
2. Stop and realize the path you are starting to go down. What is the opposite path?
3. Stop and thank yourself for realizing the original path you started down and then go down the opposite path.
4. Give yourself kudos and tell yourself it's okay to be in control of yourself and your emotions.

It's helping me to not dwell as much. It's okay for me not to feel bad. This isn't a choice we made. They made this choice.