I see what you mean. But I'd say, then, that my 'trust' issues are more a problem than my mother or security or sex. I have to have a very solid sense of it before ANYTHING. And that is something I sense from a person... it probably even gives me the feel of a lioness, because there is a part of me that is very wary.
Well, I'm distracting myself by considering your problems. I think that the bunny is concerned with trust and the lioness is concerned with respect, not quite the same. Let's think about a woman who is mega-strong-bunny. Let's say she goes out on a first date with a guy. Let's say she has sex with the guy and it turns out to be a sort of typical worst-case-casual-sex-scenario maybe of the Wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am-no-orgasm-immediately-passed-out-partner variety. Now it's easy to imagine the sort of negative self-talk a weak bunny might have or the negative thoughts about the man or men that a weak bunny being protected by a lioness might have but what would mega-strong-bunny do? I imagine her shaking her little head, perhaps yawning a bit, wandering over to the mini-fridge to have some macadamia nuts and some Evian, fixing her make-up as she smiles at herself in the mirror and then texting a good friend "Well, that guy was a bit of a waste of time. Do you want to meet me for brunch tomorrow?"
OTOH, I don't think that it is particularly nice to have sex with men you don't respect even if you aren't concerned with issues of trust because your bunny is so fat and contented. So, it makes sense to size a guy up a bit no matter what.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
