1. I haven't read that book. I'm sure you are right about it being his top 3 things... If i could only figure out how he wants it to be, that'd be great. It seems like I do one thing and it's good tonight, but try it again tomorrow and it's the end of the world.
2. I stuff the not being attracted to him as much as humanly possible. I talk about it here because I can, but he doesn't know the extent of it. Maybe this weekend I can try that. I used to do that alot, but haven't in a long time. I really try not to have the "too little too late" attitude, but when it comes to this i have. I used to do this so much and still get turned down. It's hard going to that much trouble only to have someone say no. I have to stop thinking like that though. I have to give him a clean slate on this stuff! Thanks.
3. Large glass ego. hehe... I know that my H's ego is extremely fragile. It always has been. That's why for a long time i didn't tell him i wasn't attracted to him, but blamed it on the pregnancy. I couldn't bear to "hear the glass break." I got some good advice here that took it more from I'm not attracted to you to it's hard for me to get in the mood for sex without being in love. I still don't think he fully knows that I'm not attracted to him and I don't plan to come right out and tell him. He doesn't know he's not my type, we don't talk about it. I try to reassure him when he asks questions. He knows that i didn't really find OM attractive and that it really was an EA, so that does help. He's been losing weight and doing some excersizing at home, so i've told him that he's looking really good. He's got this joke he started right after he decided that he was going to make me fall in love with him again (his words) He says "I'm a sexy beast baby, how can you not love this..." I giggle and he cracks up. So a few times I've told him he really is and that I'm lucky to have him. He likes that. I try to praise the small things. I think i just need to pay more attention to those. He is probably doing stuff that I expect him to, i should thank him for those too.
Thanks for the advice. I do notice that he is nicer and more thoughtful when he is feeling good about himself. hopefully i can make him feel that way more often.
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
