respond or stay still?

[heartbreak2]

It has been a while since I have posted. I am keeping so busy no time for the computer some days which is a good thing.

No contact with H other than a few phone calls about an injured child and txt msg asking him to talk about party details for d's 18th bday in a few wks.

saw him for 30 sec. at his offfice on Mon. had to bring d's SAT scores to fax to college for the collgeboard failed to send them when she took the SAT. He walked in said hi asked if his secretary did it and I said yes. I told him he looked tired and asked what happened to his eye. He answered broken blood vessel and walked away.

so life still goes on and it is ok. I one of the best weekends I have had in a long time and this so far is an ok wk.

d had a meltdown this morning and that is what brings me here.

she is worried about H and misses him suddenly.
she said I don't want to come home for it is only you here.
then told me he talked to her last weekend and told her he is so sad etc etc and that he is not sure why he is living.

bells and whistles started going off in my head here people....

is he hitting bottom??
can't talk to me for he is still in withdrawal and lost and depressed?

how do I handle him at this point?

I sent him a Christmas card to his condo with a picture of the 3 of us that the kids and I sent out in cards this yr. Yes indeed we took a picture and sent cards... that is a huge step for me to announce my kids and I to the world I thought.

I also sent him an insert that I gave a gift of feeding a family of 4 for a month in his name to food for the poor. I support them regularly and at Christmas I decided this yr I decided that the kids would send this type of gift to their Grandfather who does not acknowledge them but once a yr with a $50 ck. made out by his new wife.

So I did give him his Christmas gift the day we met to discuss the settlement on dec. 8th. and a note with it.
He has gone silent since then but for one time to yell at me on the phone about the settlement and I told him that I would have my L deal with it. nothing from him since but one email telling me he sent the info to his L. That was a wk ago so I keep waiting now for a call from my L saying he rec'd it.

so in my heart I feel he can't do this for he still has feelings in there somewhere.
but it is so hard to hold on yet keep looking forward and stepping one foot in front of the other some days.

how do I deal with knowing he is sad and depressed and feels like his life is not living?????

thanks